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If your a parent with a child who has special educational needs join us for a coffee and a chat, every Monday at Witney Methodist church from 12:30.
Any questions email parent@got2b.org.uk
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So Madge asked me to write a blog about walking and talking with young people.
Walking and talking isnât new but itâs new to us, itâs been around for many many, years and dates back to Ancient Greece, who coined the term pedagogy – when servants were paid to walk with children and to review their day and help cement their learning. We have kind of been forced into walking and talking as an organisation due to Covid, we havenât got many other options. We canât meet young people in their space, in their schools, in youth clubs, or in their homes so we have taken to walking in their environment near their homes and in their towns.
So when youâre out walking and talking with young people itâs very different to centre based work, there is no eye contact, there is no physical closeness, however there is a level of intimacy that is difficult to describe because itâs just you two (maybe sometimes three) and nature. When youâre walking, the monotonous pace and the rhythm of your walk can create quite a meditative state your heartbeat increases slightly because of the physical activity and your breath can shorten. This means words and conversation are chosen carefully and often thought about.
I believe being in nature, having a rhythmic meditative walking state and that slightly out of breath feeling has encouraged lots of young people that we have worked with, to really open up about how theyâre feeling; young people that have been quite stressed before meeting with us have left appearing lighter, like theyâve just left something horrible behind.
The topics that you cover whilst walking and talking can be anything and everything because there are lots of distractions. If nature wanders into your path when youâre out walking that is almost definitely going to come up in a conversation if a giant lorry travels alongside of a motor enthusiastic young person the conversation will probably be steered in the direction of careers and hobbies and âIâd love to drive one of those trucks one day, theyâre great!â Also, when you find yourself in a quiet area where you are not being disturbed by cars and lorries or nature, the quiet time in this secluded space opens up an environment that feels safe and intimate, and this often helps young people talk about some of the difficulties they are experiencing, The lack of eye contact, the closeness but separation, helps young people feel connected to their youth worker. Weâve had conversations about what is anxiety?  Parental health, mental health, what am I going to do with my life? I actually think I wanna stop smoking? How do I cut back on smoking this drug? Do you think that if I engage more in school and I try little bit harder I might just get the grades I need to get into college? Is there any way you might be able to help me find someone who I can talk to about my self-harm? Sometimes I look at my body and I hate it. I hate feeling like that because I never used to feel like that!  Iâm really scared about my family and the coronavirus.
When youâre walking and talking it can feel like, as a youth worker, that the boundaries are lifted; the restrictions of communication are gone and you are just a tool there to help young people explore and question their own capabilities and abilities. Obviously, we use traditional methods like asking the right questions, we might steer some conversations into talking about things that we know that young person is struggling with, but actually when youâre out walking thatâs not necessary. It feels like you become a channel you become an ear, a friendly listener to the untamed internal dialogue from the young person, to hear their musings, worries, anxiety, the âwhat ifâs, should I?, Could !?â  The âWhat would happen if I dids?â  The thoughts that wizz about in the young personâs mind.
This is a very special sacred place to be, a very trusted and privileged place, that you donât often experience in the confines of a building.
Julie Edwards
Yet only through communication can human life hold meaning. (Freire, 2006)
It seems impossible to imagine a world without conversation how can you possibly know what someone is thinking unless you ask or they tell you. The ancient Greeks understood the importance of conversation, by employing a pedagogue, whose task it was to walk and talk with children. Whilst travelling to school the pedagogue would talk about the expectations of the day ahead and on the return journey would help the children reflect on the day. In this essay I will look at theories of a number of key thinkers and current social policy to establish whether Conversation still has a role to play in modern youth work. I will look at the possibility of non verbal conversation and share an example of a silent conversation. I will also look at how changing technology is effecting how we converse.
Working recently in a drop in session mostly made up of 12-13 year old males, I found my role became one of re-enforcing boundaries and rules. Constantly asking YP to stop throwing equipment, not to use the fire exit, to leave the fire extinguisher where it was, it is difficult to see how this sort of interaction can be viewed as meaningful conversation. When I was sat with a small group of young males they were talking about âmanhandling somethingâ and one of group said âboy handling more likeâ I did try to lead the conversation about the difference between men and boys, the response I got was that âmen have big dicksâ. While this was not the response I had hoped for, it should be recognised that this was still the rudimentary beginnings of dialogue, from which I learnt something about the maturity of those young men and their readiness to engage in conversation. Had we have been in a formal learning setting then the chances are this small interaction wouldnât even have occurred and I wouldnât have gleaned that bit of knowledge. By looking at the theories of key thinkers it is possible to explain the young menâs response. In his work Pedagogy of the Oppressed, Freire writes of the necessity for certain conditions to be present for dialogue to be successful. These conditions are
Love; Humility; Trust; Hope and Critical thinking. (Freire, 2006)
Having recognised that these young men were not ready to engage, I can appreciate the importance of the conditions for conversation. Informal Education through conversation, therefore, needs to be at a time when all parties are ready to engage and when these conditions are present. Given the fact that I had only worked with the boys on two previous occasions, it is understandable that the conditions were lacking.
Thinking of the Every Child Matters (DfSE, 2003) agenda, our current practice requires targeted work to achieve recordable outcomes and accreditation. One wonders how Freireâs conditions fit in to such policy when targeted work is somewhat enforced on both the worker and the young people. When work happens in a short time frame, little chance is given to creating an atmosphere to promote love and trust. I wonder if conversation will still be a key skill employed by youth workers or whether we will find ourselves resorting to giving out instruction as a manner of education. This method of âpouring information into an empty vesselâ is described as the âbanking systemâ (Freire, 2006). Freire also recognises the inadequacies of this method of education. The giving of knowledge in this way embraces the notion that the teacher/youth worker is all knowledgeable and the young people know nothing. This method of education continues to feed oppression. Unless young people are given the opportunity to question they will not be able to form their own opinions. Freire favours the adoption of âproblem posing educationâ through dialogue the roles of student and teacher interchange and teachers are taught by students as well. Each becomes responsible for the learning process.
Problem posing education does not and cannot serve the interests of the oppressor. No oppressive order could permit the oppressed to begin to question: Why? (Freire, 2006)
I would also like to look at the concept of legitimate peripheral participation (Lave & Wenger, 1991). This model clearly demonstrates different levels of participation within any group.
Members of the group move freely between these levels of participation, often coming closer to the centre as things of interest to them are at the fore. From this model there is a plausible conclusion that the young men discussed in my example formed part of the peripheral group and the interaction I initiated from the core was not able to draw them further in to the group at this stage.
The silent conversation
Of course conversation doesnât have to be a verbal experience, I once spent an entire evening having a âsilentâ conversation with a young women. She wrote âHello, how are youâ on a piece of paper and passed it to me over the coffee bar, I replied on the paper and we continued conversing in this way. By the end of the evening we had explored an issue concerning her mental wellbeing to a satisfactory conclusion. The reason this method worked really well on this occasion was, I think, due to her lack of confidence and withdrawn state at that time. She was clearly instigating the interaction but was not able to verbalise that at the time. This example, however, still follows the notion that conversation is spontaneous and takes place between two people in the same location. Visual reassurance in the form of facial expression and body language are there to support the written message where tone of voice is lacking.
Conversation involves an immediate response. There is not much time lag between the action of one person and the response of the other. .. … It means, for example, that what we say may be less thought out. (Jeffs & Smith, 2005)
Changing technology
As the technological age has taken hold, over the last decade young people are turning to texting and social networking as a means of conversation. With 1 billion text messages being sent every month (BBC, 2007) one can see just how big an attraction this is becoming for young people. As this form of conversation is not face to face, facial expressions are replaced by smilies like J or :p and voice tone replaced by CAPITALS to show, anger and hearts <3 and kisses x to imply good intent. We have also adopted abbreviations such as LOL (laugh out loud) or ROFL (roll on floor laughing). As Youth Workers if we want to maintain our contact, and continue to engage with young people then we must embrace these concepts and learn to converse with young people through these methods. This will however, bring to the fore, problems and concerns around a number of issues.
Let us look at these issues in more detail.
Regulations and concerns
Every organisation should have policies and regulations to inform and guide workers practice and Oxfordshire County Council, for whom I work, are no exception. There are already policies around boundaries and the importance of maintaining a professional relationship. However, there are no specific guidelines in relation to social networking sites or texting. Without these clear guidelines, some workers are reluctant to engage in work with young people on the internet. One of the biggest concerns involves the social networking site facebook. Many youth centres have their own pages, and young people and workers are invited to become friends of that centre. The potential boundary issues are that young people are able to read âstatusâ information about the worker. Imagine a workers âstatusâ reading âgot a huge hangover, how much did I drink, canât remember much about last night, but must have been a good oneâ or âhad a really crap night at youth club tonightâ. Photos that are uploaded by members can also be seen by the friends group. This again crosses the personal/professional boundary line allowing young people to view images of workers and vice versa. Despite these concerns social networking is a powerful working tool. Allowing workers to publicise the youth centre and planned activities, give instant reminders about returning permission forms or informing of unexpected closures. It provides a platform to give young people links to other sites, providing information about drugs, sexual health and other issues. I feel that organisations need to give serious consideration to the use of social networking sites, and policies drawn up as a matter of urgency. Some of the guidelines around street based and detached youth work could also apply to on-line working.
Language
On-line chat and texting has given us a new âlanguageâ to learn, initially born from the requirement to limit the length of SMS text messages and speed for the â2 fingered typistâ, most people are comfortable using abbreviated âtextâ words like âC U L8râ for âsee you laterâ, and some are able to translate âBTWâ as âby the wayâ or âTMIâ into âtoo much informationâ. However, internet language has now evolved to such a degree that the written word is almost totally unrecognisable as English. Using the subversive language called âleet speakâ phrases such as âHi, how are youâ become âH1, h0w 4r3 %05â and âinformal educationâ becomes completely transformed into â1/\/|=ø|^/\/\4|_ 3|)|_|<4710/\/â. Even âleet speakâ has its own variations unique to different on-line communities, dependant on which game or website the user is a part of. Freire wrote of the need for âgenerative wordsâ the requirement to learn the words used by people with whom you engage, leads to an understanding of the world as they see it. Without this understanding how can there be opportunity for youth workers to converse with young people on equal terms and without equality we perpetuate oppression.
In conclusion then, having looked at examples of conversation both verbal and silent, and exploring how conversation is changing in the world of technology it appears to me that conversation does still have a role to play in youth work and will do for the foreseeable future. There appears to be a paradox between the time constraints and imposed nature of targeted work and the Every Child Matters outcomes of âmaking a positive contributionâ, âAchieve economic wellbeingâ and âEqual Opportunityâ. In order to achieve these outcomes the âproblem posingâ education model would be the best method to use, allowing young people to question and challenge the world around them. The constraining element of targeted work however, lends itself to the âbankingâ model. As informal educators, we strive to work with young people in many settings and on equal terms, if we are to work congruently then we must adopt the âproblem posingâ model of education. As youth workers we must jump into the âvirtualâ world and be prepared to break down language barriers, to understand the generative words that our young people are using and to continue to converse with them. Informal education continues to be a substantial part of youth work and conversation is the key element to informal education.
Bibliography
BBC. (2007, November 5th). Retrieved November 25, 2009, from BBC news Website: http://www.new.bbc.uk/1/hi/technology/7075005.stm
DfSE. (2003). Every Child Matters. London: Stationery Office.
Freire, P. (2006). Pedagogy of the Oppressed. New York: The Continuum International Publishing Group.
Jeffs, T., & Smith, M. (2005). Informal Education: conversation, democracy and learning. Nottingham: Educational Heretics Press.
Lave, J., & Wenger, E. (1991). Situated Learning: Legitimate Peripheral Participation. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press.
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